Fun and Games Job?

Library Director? People often say to me when learning that I am a librarian that it must be fun working in a library and just reading books all the time. How little they know.

As a library director some of my duties include: buying books and supplies, keeping records of all library transactions, checking books in and out, shelving books, attending meetings and conferences and week-long seminars, calling on overdue books and sending reminders, doing bookwork totals daily, monthly and yearly for statistics and reports, publicity, organizing and overseeing various library programs, which include Summer Reading, preschool story time, book discussion groups, family night, teen night, coordinating volunteers, weeding out and discarding old and out of date books, shoveling snow, and spreading snow-melt in winter, sweeping sidewalks and watering shrubs in summer, borrowing books from other libraries for interlibrary loans, picking up mail daily at the post office, trying to keep people quiet so others can enjoy the library and helping patrons find books. We also help people on the computers, clean the bathrooms, wash windows, set up tables and chairs, vacuum the carpets, empty the wastebaskets, put trash out for garbage day, dust, clean and sweep entry.

As we say at our meetings: “We wear many hats and small town librarians’ jobs are a labor of love.” You can prove that just by looking at our salaries.

3 Essential Tips to Successful Dating and Seduction

I would like to say that I understand how big a thing it is to admit the need to overcome the fear of meeting or dating a woman. For whatever reason you are here now, I respect your courage. It is known that for a lot of men, the fear of rejection has a massive impact on their courage and ability to successfully meet or date a woman, this fear can certainly be beaten and it is quite simple to achieve. I don’t want it to hurt too much! But please think back to when you were rejected by a girl, ok, well you survived right?

You got over that and then you met other people. The thing to note here, is that you moved on, as a result of that rejection you then met someone else! This was positive, you now potentially will meet someone who will be right for you because the girl who rejected you was not. Stay positive! Now, being aware of the tactics and methods involved in successful seduction, will give you a great advantage over others and helps you to be confident, in all sorts of situations.

Imagine you are out with friends and you get talking to a girl you like, you get on well, she talks nicely to you but she is not responding to any flirty signs of yours, now, she will know that you have chosen and like her, therefore it gives her a sense of importance.

You can turn this situation completely to your advantage with the following:

3 wonderful tips for your seduction success.

Use strong eye contact when talking to any other girl. When chatting with your target female, look away toward another girl, and smile before looking back at your target. This rams home a sense of competition into her subconscious mind and immediately makes her fight for your attention.

Casually make contact with her friends more than her. Touch her friends to get their attention or when laughing and joking, it seems cruel I know but it works, your girl will be fighting back to have you laugh with her.

When sitting or standing, talking as a group. Face more (as in, the direction of your head and body) in the direction of one of her friends more than her. Again, using this deflection method will test your girl’s ego and therefore make her want you more!

This is just one of many tactics you can use to boost your pick-up game, there are many more you should learn, they are good fun and will maximize your success with the opposite sex, and you can be the guy that gets the girl!

Dating and Relationships: Why Didn’t He Call?

It’s Saturday night, you’re out with a few friends and unexpectedly you meet a handsome stranger. You end up spending most of the evening flirting, drinking, laughing, talking & dancing. At the end of the night, he asks you for your number as he say’s he would like to take you out for dinner.

As you get into the cab feeling ever so elated, you mentally press rewind and start replaying the evening in the back of your mind. You break out in an uncontrollable grin, despite the fact that your new pair of heels have left your feet sore and it’s 5.00am. Your thoughts are then rudely interrupted with the sound of a text alert. As you reach in your handbag, you silently wish for it to be him. YES! It’s him, telling you how much he enjoyed your company and will call you later on… OH YES, ISN’T LIFE GREAT!

Sunday afternoon – hmmm no phone call, he’s probably sleeping, it was a late night, I’m sure he’ll call tonight… Sunday evening – I know he has a pretty early start with his job, so in between nursing a hangover and sorting himself out for work, he will probably leave it for tomorrow. Monday evening – may be he’s playing it cool, he doesn’t want to come across too keen, guys are like that, aren’t they? Tuesday evening – Why hasn’t he called? He said he liked me and wanted to take me out for dinner. Why did he say all of this, if he was not interested?

For all you guys reading this, it’s true, this is what most women who you’ve said you would call, go through. Whilst it may just have been a polite gesture on your part, or a spontaneous request, by not calling you hurt someone’s feelings. If you think this is OTT, just think of those times when you have plucked up the courage to approach a woman, after you think she has been giving you signals, just to be outright rejected. If you’re smirking thinking, well now she knows how it feels, two wrongs don’t make a right!

And guys in case you’re thinking, well she’s got my number, why doesn’t she just call me? Firstly, you asked for the number, so the onus is on you to follow up. Secondly, you said you were going to call, if a woman then chooses to call, there’s a good chance you’re going to think she’s overly keen or just desperate. And thirdly, women also have pride. But let’s be honest here, without the chase your interest is going to wane anyway, isn’t it?

So ladies why hasn’t he called? Often, when guys ask you for your number, at that precise moment he intends to use it. After that moment has literally passed, a new game comes into play. The next morning he will mull over it, questioning whether he had his beer goggles on? How well he connected with you – does he see any long term potential, or is it best left as a night of fun? Is he ready to, or can he even be bothered to, have a relationship? And the list could go on. But in a nutshell, if he hasn’t called you within 72 hours, he’s just not interested. It doesn’t matter how busy a guy is, if he genuinely likes you, he will find the time to contact you.

For arguments sake, let’s reverse the tables for a moment. Guys imagine that you meet someone at a singles event, or in a bar and you really like her. You spend most of the evening with her, and at the end of the night you ask her for her number. She insists on taking yours and says she will call you. How does it make you feel, when that call does not come? If you put your male ego aside, part of you will probably be disappointed and you may move on quickly. On the other hand, depending on how much you liked her, in your ‘male-way’ you will pretty much go through the same motions, as women do.

Thus, the moral of this story is that we are all adults. If it is just a ‘one evening thing’ then leave it at that. If you’re not going to make that call, please don’t take, or ask for their number!